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Consequences of Standing Your Ground

My title here should be, The Rewards of Standing Your Ground, but I’ll save that for my next post.

When least expected you may face an attack on your character, on your business and reputation; or the attack may come at you as a parent, or even on all of the above.  Yes, unfortunately I know this personally and can attest to the uncomfortable consequences, but I also expect to demonstrate the rewards of learning and growing from the experience.

It’s a choice to stay in the experience rather than running from it, and it’s a choice – sometimes an hourly one – to grow from it and seek the purpose in the lesson. Some people wonder why I don’t take their advice and just let it go and move on to something else, but more of those who know me or those who can see why I stand my ground so often (which means more litigation than I care to discuss here), express admiration and encouragement for staying the course. I’m grateful and very blessed to have more new friends and signs of support than I can count. Fortunately I’m also not alone in being bull-headed about righting wrongs and addressing foul play.

I draw strength from seeing how others handle these attacks, especially when someone stands their ground  when the cost is very high. Even better is when others join forces because they know the person’s work and character are compelling, meaningful to society and worth fighting for. If you see some of my posts on LinkedIn, Twitter and occasionally on Facebook about a fight going on, about creating transparency over professional misconduct or about child abuse, I hope you’ll remember this explanation here on my personal blog.

I want more people to realize they can overcome retaliation and improve personally and at work from dealing with the consequences of standing up to those who willfully steal, lie and litigate to cause harm. And as I’m frequently told, if someone is retaliating against you and trying to bring you down, it’s likely because you’re doing something right, something of value for society.

Two people I am proud to know and cheer for in their ongoing battles against wrongdoing and false allegations are Michael J. Daugherty and Mark Thomason, both from Georgia. Both were just doing their jobs, diligently and with integrity, contributing to society by building their own businesses and giving back when they were ambushed.

One owns a medical testing lab and the other is a publisher of a small, rural newspaper.  Not much in common and they would probably never cross paths except they are both now in the news – in the spotlight because they are standing up to corrupted behavior and attempted cover-ups by government officials and/or agencies.

Both are duking it out with the bad actors in litigation and in social media, and both on principle…because someone has to so that more innocent people and upstanding businesses are not harmed. Daugherty, now an author and spokesman on cybersecurity and government overreach, has been calling out the witch hunt on the federal agency level, while Thomason’s open records requests were made on a hyper-local level (Blue Ridge, Georgia, in the Appalachian Judicial Circuit) but leading to national recognition and support from news media.

Fact Check Time with Mike Daugherty

Watching the events unfold in their respective fights is somewhat like looking in a mirror, and when you learn more about what sparked their fights, you may be able to relate on some level. If that’s the case, I hope that you are inspired and find something to draw strength from as I have. When someone does harm to you or to a person or place you care about, and you feel called to do something about it, prepare for and expect the blowback!

I believe both Michael and Mark will affirm that it will worsen before it gets better and relief arrives, but there is no greater satisfaction (outside of parenting, personally) than showing you have what it takes, including a network of support, to prevail in the end.

Please check out their stories – Mike Daugherty and Mark Thomason – and follow the updates on these cases. The retaliation against these good men is alarming, blatant and clearly meant to destroy, but I expect both will prevail and that our society will be better off for the stands they are taking.

Mark’s updates can be seen on the Fannin Focus Facebook page when other news media report on the situation, so this is the easiest way to keep up with Mark.

Twitter is my favorite way to keep up with Mike and the banter about data security, privacy, and the hacking done by Tiversa to create profits from false allegations against his business. Unreal! [This reminds of a couple other Georgia cases involving computer security experts being used to create false criminal claims, which were turned into profits for a few attorneys and their experts; one of these cases involves a story of national interest, so you’ll see more coming out on this one].

Your story, I am guessing, is also worth telling and I’m glad to read or listen, and to invite you to talk about it when Pro Advocate Radio returns for its next season!

Watch this WSB-TV report to go deeper into the saga exposing judicial impropriety, retaliation against reporters who ask too many questions and to see how our news media are responding.

Thinning the Thin Blue Line for Political Gain

A candidate spoke of the positives coming out of the violence at his political rally. Yes, he did.

No mention of the injured officer or of the waste of our tax dollars caused by his inciting of violence and intentionally divisive, inflammatory words and conduct. But he did speculate it could be good for his vote count while talking to media and even went on to talk about himself and his supporters as being the victims for having their first amendment rights denied.

This could be the thinning of what is already a thin blue line.

What does #ThinBlueLine mean?

The Thin Blue Line is a symbol used by law enforcement, originating in the United Kingdom but now prevalent in the United States and Canada to commemorate fallen officers and to symbolize the relationship of the police in the community as the protectors of the citizenry from the criminal element. In my opinion this line gets thinner when people treat law enforcement with disrespect and make their jobs harder, and integrity – or the lack of it – has everything to do with this problem.

Think. When we unnecessarily make police work harder by inciting violence we – candidates who activate hate, racism, fear, anti-semitism, and more – undermine our officers’ ability to protect and to serve as they are trying to do.

Poor judgment by candidates increases the risk to our officers, to families and children, to businesses, and, yes, to reporters as well. When you put down women, minorities and lie about what you’re doing, you’re inviting in abuse…but this candidate then rewards it with more fanfare.

When we create situations that cause law enforcement to have to react – and these are avoidable situations – we are wasting our resources, taking officers away from areas where others are truly in need of protection.

This candidate said about a protestor, “I was ready for him,” Trump said. “But it’s much easier if the cops do it.” This says he knows what he’s doing, escalating fear and hate, but that it’s not his problem, it’s law enforcement’s problem. And…it’s OUR problem as taxpayers, as parents, as business owners, etc. This doesn’t help us – – it hurts us.

Consider these statements in this CNN report:

Trump campaign manager Corey Lewandowski added, “We don’t make decisions in a vacuum. We coordinate with all the appropriate law enforcement.”

But Anthony Guglielmi, a Chicago police spokesman, told CNN that Trump’s claim that he informed a police commander before making the decision to cancel the rally was “absolutely untrue.”

“No one from the campaign contacted the Chicago Police Department and we were not involved at all in canceling the event,” Guglielmi told CNN. [So this candidate’s going to subject our officers to greater risk, and our citizens, and then lie about his campaign’s conduct while blaming police.]

“I was literally standing next to the superintendent when we were notified by the university that the event had been canceled. I think a lot of people were surprised, including the Secret Service officer standing next to us who was notified at the same time.”

Guglielmi added that police then dispatched an additional 100 police officers to the University of Illinois arena, where the event was being held, to assist with crowd control.

What if, Mr. Presidential Candidate, instead of stirring up violent protests for the sake of attention, media ratings and to distract from your own misconduct, you managed in a way that encourages law enforcement to use their time and energy to rescue victims of child trafficking and to pursue the predators in each area you visit?

That is what honoring law enforcement and protecting our vulnerable citizens looks like, when you choose what is right for them over what your ego demands.

If enough people say the truth over and over again maybe it will start to resonate with voters who still have integrity and empathy for people.

To the millions who are struggling, losing children, homes, health and jobs, I hope you’ll consider the attitude and example of candidates and watch how they treat others. If someone is cavalier about risking the lives of our officers, retaliates against a victim of violence for speaking out, threatens anyone who speaks out against him and rewards those who put profits over facts, what chance do you think we’ll have of getting him to care about the plight of families and children? Where on his list of priorities do you think your family will fall?

Respond to me on Twitter @DebBeachamATL or @MyAdvocateCentr, or via MyAdvocateCenter.com.

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center
Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center

 

Keeping Your Sense of Humor

Each day this call to action becomes more important as we are inundated with negativity messages and personal attacks, because we dared to speak our mind and take a stand about something important.

As you filter out the negative political attacks and the biased news media reports, preserve your health and sanity by either not responding, or responding with a sense of humor. What is most effective is the short and sweet, positive / above the fray type of message.

One of my favorite recently heart remarks is from Governor Nikki Halley when she came back at Donald with, “Bless your heart,” to one of his blustering and bullying put-downs.

Don’t just smile, create some of your own and save them up since you don’t know when you might need to have one or two handy to deal with people who want to slow your work down (because it makes them look bad or feel inferior), or people who say untrue or cruel things about you because they want to escape consequences for their own actions. Don’t worry about what is wrong with them, just focus on lifting yourself, or someone you support, up and over the scoundrels who want you to go off the cliff with them.

Charm school or the funny papers you read with grandpa may just pay off!

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham Driving Change

 

Hope and Heritage: New American Century for Millennials

ChristinaWantstoKnow_GAPrimary_RubioCampaignChristina wants to know why such a diverse crowd showed up in Georgia to learn more and support Marco Rubio for President of the United States. From long time Republicans and generally conservative voters to new, young voters to newer American citizens, Christina heard a common and positive theme of hope.

This interview of another college student gave us a clear view into the mind of a well-spoken and motivated millennial. This young man is graduating from college and expects to be in medical school soon and we appreciate him sharing his viewpoint as a student, a future doctor and as someone with a different heritage from most of the supporters who attended this overflowing event. As Christina made her way through the crowd with Pro Advocate Radio’s microphone he waved at her while holding his “Arabs for Rubio” sign, and of course she wanted to know more!

Listen to what he has to say about why Senator Rubio is his choice for millennial voters.

Mt Paran Christian School Rubio Rally

 

College Student Shares Hope – Part Two

Georgia College student Christina shares her perspective on why she switched from supporting Ted Cruz to using her voice to help get Senator Marco Rubio elected as our next president.

Christina is informed, thoughtful and well-spoken, and is hoping that more millennials will vote and vote thoughtfully about how to keep America great and about how they can make a difference.

ChristinaWantstoKnow_GAPrimary_RubioCampaign

As Christina explains in our initial interview with her for Pro Advocate Radio, she has done her homework and has spoken with Senator March Rubio three times herself to gain personal insight and accurate information so she is making informed decisions. Her wish is that more college students will also be bold thinkers and learn more about the candidates before voting on Super Tuesday and beyond. Thank you, Christina, for setting a great example for other students, millennials and for the rest of us!  [Yes, I turned the microphone over to her after this; she is quite remarkable!]

Christina Interviews Mt Paran Christian School Leadership

Child Advocacy and Presidential Elections

When many speak of child advocacy it seems they are counting on only one political party to care or take action. When I’ve spoken about the work I do at My Advocate Center some will even ask, “Why aren’t you a Democrat then?” They seem surprised that I am conservative and that I look toward Republican leadership to make improvements in child and family protections.  Over the last few years I’ve explored this question for myself and have found that political views or party affiliation have no place in the minds of the true advocates pushing to rescue children, to intervene in society’s pitfalls and to change policy.

DaveMcCleary_Advocate_Rotarian A Georgia businessman I’ve been getting to know when visiting the Capitol and events related to stopping child trafficking has raised the bar in showing how you can make a positive impact while collaborating with people from across every sector and with others who have different perspectives in areas such as faith and politics. For Dave McCleary it’s a simple matter of showing up and using the resources you have available to drive change.

When I saw Dave at a campaign event for Marco Rubio for President, I of course wanted to know what it is about Senator Rubio that has earned Dave’s support for this presidential candidate. As I’m sure you will be, I’m grateful to learn that Rubio has the same fire in his gut for helping our vulnerable citizens, especially exploited children and battered women. Please listen to what Dave has to say about the man, the father and leader Marco Rubio.

Where Do You Find Hope? Part One

What I’m supposed to say is that I find my hope in God’s word and while that is true, I’m also like many of my peers (and I don’t fake it well!). We relate in wanting something or someone we can see with our own eyes, and we want clear plans and promises we can wrap our minds around. We want to see and know that someone we trust will follow through and deliver on what we need and expect.

No, that isn’t faith but it is a part of being human, of being real and normal.

As long as we can keep the perspective that politicians are just as human as we are, and as long as we don’t displace our hope and faith by leaving it in their hands instead of in God’s hands, then we can find peace. Then we can more effectively use our voices – and our votes – in the political process.

During this intense and uncertain time of a hotly contested presidential election we monitor, judge, compare notes and spar with each other because we want to be heard, and heard over others. We probably even want to be validated by others in our choices. But most of all we want to know that our hope in someone or in certain ideals will manifest into reality, meaning a better life and more certainty and stability. Of course it’s a slippery slope if we are betting on / believing in someone who just talks a good game…as opposed to having game.

IMG_0129Rather than share more of my own thoughts I wanted to give others a chance to think out loud and to express their hopes, dreams, feelings, questions and to even show enthusiasm if they felt inspired to do so.

When the opportunity came to join the press ranks at the campaign event for Senator Marco Rubio this final weekend of February, I realized as I stepped into the crowd what I was supposed to do. We’re in the final days leading up to the Georgia Republican Primary on Tuesday, March 1st, I’m just happy to be here, but also grateful we live where we don’t have to fear retaliation for speaking our minds. So I decided to make the most of it for the people who came out to learn more and to support someone who gives them hope. They were pleased – enthusiastic is a better word – to share their opinions and to use their voices this way.

I’m also grateful for the Georgia college student who joined me in giving others a voice on this day, so if you meet Christina, please congratulate her on a job well done! I could not have covered the turf (or the stands holding thousands) like we did today without her help.

Christina Wants To Know Why Rubio for

Just watch…and listen.

Christina’s First Interview

Listen Carefully to Those Who Want Your Vote

My advice? Don’t just listen to what is being said now but also go back in time. And it’s about so much more than words; it’s about actions and how you treat others while going after what you want for yourself.

I’m doing my best to stay positive, to avoid getting caught up in anti anything talks or name-calling – – that serves no purpose. If we are going to protect our citizens, give children what they need to thrive, improve our systems – including legal immigration, healthcare, education and more – we have to stand up to divisiveness of all kinds.  On the flip side we have to search for integrity and for those who will follow through on solutions that will help our families and children and lead us out of danger.

Show me what you stand for and how you use your resources and connections to back up what you say, and you might get my vote.

 

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