Is it good for you to know what’s coming?  What you can expect, or better yet, what you can or cannot control? I believe so, and I believe informing families improves stability.

Of course.  So that means it is true for your children as well.   Most of the concepts I’m exploring here have to do with helping us do better for ourselves but especially for our children.  If you are not a parent, but support children or parents in your community, you may learn about concepts or resources that you’ll want to share.

In my own journey I realized there was a lot of information and guidance missing that I needed at a critical time, so I set out to have questions answered and to identify the best resources that others might need as well.

If you would like to contribute to the public education now available through My Advocate Center to help more families avoid the pitfalls seen in our court system, please consider donating here. This method is not yet tax-deductible, so let me know if you prefer to use a method that will allow you to receive the deduction through one of our partner organizations.


What I learned is worth sharing.  The issues I address are meant to invite debate about more positive ways to resolve conflict and overcome challenges – or challenging people – with a central focus on the needs of children.

Just knowing the right questions to ask, knowing that accountability is possible, finding honest and trustworthy support…can make all the difference in how we function in life, how we protect our health and finances, and especially around how we care for and nurture our children.

When we are informed and well supported, we can properly set and follow through on expectations.  That benefits our children because we all have greater peace of mind.  With the right expectations, support, know-how, peace of mind…we can perform better, make better decisions, and ideally deliver what is needed.

So the conversation here is about empowering, creating new solutions and building toward better peace of mind, better health, greater productivity…and, yes, more laughter and joy.

Keeping it simple:  when we are at our best, we can serve God, each other and our children better.

Many of my topics come from daily life, as well as from being provoked in social media by friends I agree with and others I don’t.   My posts have less to do with what is reported in the news, and more to do with how I see us treating each other – and how that affects our children.

Many of the questions I raise also grow out of my observations of my own children and of other children & families:

When you learn to read the faces of children, you’ll see that they are telling you a lot about yourself.

Just know that if I call you out, I’m calling myself out as well.  Being transparent seems to work for me so I’m going with it.  None of us are perfect, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t keep learning and striving to do more with what we have, and to help our kids do better than we’ve done in the past.

What you can expect from me is candor, challenge, spirit (sometimes becoming “fight” when called for) and a genuine desire to both learn from my own mistakes and to help others do the same.

This desire gave birth to Connect | Inform | Empower and the warehouse of solutions and resources now called My Advocate Center.

On this blog and on My Advocate Center’s blog you’ll see a broad range of discussions, from children’s interests and parenting issues, including legal advocacy for parents and children, to issues that go to the heart of both social and business relationships.  I’ll probably get Global and Political and Spiritual at times – but always practical, always balanced and quick to consider perspectives other than my own.

What I ask of you as a reader is to please consider different sides of issues, and to help me Stand in the Gap that exists around many of the problems we face in this Community of ours.  Let’s set a better example: one we want our children to model after and carry forward with our help.

Your constructive feedback is always welcome here, and positive contributions are a great thing!

Thank you,

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center
Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center