It would be so easy to sensationalize an expensive, high-profile case I’ve been keeping an eye on, but that would that mean setting aside empathy and the mission of supporting the best interests of families and children. I can’t and won’t do it.
This week I am having to choose between reporting something shocking or guiding content in a way that leads to something better for people engaging the legal system because they are either going on offense and being forced to defend.
This post will evolve as my report on the case is completed, but for now I’m logging the sadness I felt in observing a tough family matter being exploited in court. My personal belief is that this family has been through enough, and professionally I believe it’s time for the lawyers escalating the family conflict be stopped in their tracks.
A professional who has exploited a number of cases I’ve observed allowed her client to be exposed for using the court system in an abusive manner, showing he was acting in bad faith. When I say “allowed,” I mean that it is my belief that this could have been avoided with minimal and reasonable effort by this man’s counsel. It’s just more profitable to allow offensive legal actions to ride – even when they make no sense and serve no valid purpose.
But it does not seem that he acted on his own, and it is clear this stressful, expensive and time-consuming trial is a waste of the court’s time and of the family’s time and money.
I wonder what could have been resolved and corrected her if counsel had been willing to help him avoid the embarrassment and discomfort seen and felt in court today.
This man admitted that “had he known” what he was learning in court through the exposure of the facts, he would not have filed the action against his ex-wife. He seemed confused at times, still wanting to “get” his ex in some way, but not able to support his feelings and actions with facts. He was flapping out in the wind, and this was preceded by his counsel laughing, saying, “We aren’t fighting…we are having a PARTY at (their) expense.”
This appears to be a big mess that could have been avoided if his counsel had truly been acting in his best interests, and upholding duty to him and heeding ethics rules and our laws.
To be continued…