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Integrity of Heart

You can count on one thing with me for certain and that is the integrity of my heart, because it belongs to God and is constantly being shaped by His love, mercy and grace.

This integrity of heart is what has kept me focused on the mission of My Advocate Center even through the trauma of having my own children wrongfully removed, as I was under attack and unable to see what was being done to me, by whom and how it was being covered up so I could not defend. As painful as that was and as worried about my children as I have been, I’ve known that there was a purpose in this and that I needed to remain faithful and to wait on God to guide me. Not easy for a type-A entrepreneur and advocate-turned-reporter (or reporter-turned-advocate, take your pick) to wait and see.

You can count on a second thing and that is I will always come back to this core focus, the needs of children. Sure, I might feel a competitive streak, a flash of anger or a moment of despair over experiencing what it is like to be oppressed and humiliated, but that’s being human. What makes us leaders – and good parents and advocates for others – is how we respond and then what we do with that.

And, as I’ve been told, good leaders help others learn to be good leaders; they give others that chance, and step out of the spotlight themselves. So I’m creating opportunities for professionals, parents, grandparents, teachers and others to show they can lead, be great examples, to make a difference with the mix they have in their bowls.

Watching what they do now with their own inspiration mixed with challenges (opportunities)…not looking for perfection, but for effort, inspiration, courage and for integrity.

Proverbs 11:3 and 1 Peter 2:13-17

Through These Experiences

I love the law and now realize that my purpose as I move through these experiences is to ensure that our laws are applied to the best of our ability in serving the needs of children and of safe, loving and available parents.

Children deserve the best of both parents.

~ Deb

Rising Above It All

Can you imagine being asked to help someone who has fallen on hard times?  Yes, of course.

But what if you helped that person and they betrayed you?  It uncomfortable, but life happens.

Bear with me – this gets a bit more intense and strange.

What if the person you helped actually staged photos of your home, without your permission, and posted them online to use in promoting their cleaning services?

Doesn’t feel good, does it?

Now – imagine this person saw an opportunity to better their position in life and in business by using photos of your home to help someone else.  Think betrayal – as in the photos are given to your opponent in a court case while you are kept in the dark, unaware that this relationship has formed and that this person who made you believe she is here to help you is actually acting to cause you harm.

Where would you start?  How do you address such unscrupulous behavior?

Of course you turn first to how you can keep things peaceful for your children; the less drama the better, right?

But what if the person you trusted to help you at home decides to become involved in taking your children from you?  What do you do then?

Do you expose the situation publicly, or do you let karma take care of it?

#BuyerBeware

 

Early Intervention and Better Judgment

That’s what we all want as parents, grandparents, teachers and coaches for our kids.

To ask for help early on to troubleshoot  any challenges, including emotional burdens.

To use better judgment when choosing which company you keep, where you spend free time and how you treat your family, as a few examples. Each act of wisdom and each show of empathy and kindness may help prevent breakdowns and crimes as revealed in the news story below about a man who could not cope with the consequences of his addiction — set in East Cobb County, Marietta, Georgia.

After studying parent/child relationships for decades, analyzing hundreds of cases involving family conflict, I can say for certain that a parent’s judgment in how he or she guides children to treat other family members has a lot to do with preventing ongoing dysfunction, including addiction, family violence, abuse in relationships, etc.

Several cases in Georgia involve someone taking a life, their own or a family member’s life, committing arson and other crimes, because that person doesn’t have the coping mechanisms needed in relationships and in deciding how to handle uncertainty and disappointment.

A Marietta, Georgia, man turned suicidal, burned down his family home, ran from police and put many other lives at risk.

This story could have turned into a much greater tragedy, but fortunately no lives were lost and the perpetrator of arson and drug use is behind bars.

 

Below: traumatized father and neighbor talks about the scene. Other neighbors led from smoke-filled, burning homes adjacent to Matt Olson’s unit. We do not yet know the total damages caused by his addiction, suicidal behavior, arson and the police chase.

 

Photography and video credit: Fox 5 News, Atlanta, Georgia