Posts in "Kids who can NOT Speak about Abuse" category

Rising Above It All

Can you imagine being asked to help someone who has fallen on hard times?  Yes, of course.

But what if you helped that person and they betrayed you?  It uncomfortable, but life happens.

Bear with me – this gets a bit more intense and strange.

What if the person you helped actually staged photos of your home, without your permission, and posted them online to use in promoting their cleaning services?

Doesn’t feel good, does it?

Now – imagine this person saw an opportunity to better their position in life and in business by using photos of your home to help someone else.  Think betrayal – as in the photos are given to your opponent in a court case while you are kept in the dark, unaware that this relationship has formed and that this person who made you believe she is here to help you is actually acting to cause you harm.

Where would you start?  How do you address such unscrupulous behavior?

Of course you turn first to how you can keep things peaceful for your children; the less drama the better, right?

But what if the person you trusted to help you at home decides to become involved in taking your children from you?  What do you do then?

Do you expose the situation publicly, or do you let karma take care of it?

#BuyerBeware

 

Our Most Important Role

I first wrote this post in response to seeing how children are reacting to their parents going at each other, choosing to fight and litigate in courtrooms rather than putting their time, energy and financial resources into being available and providing more of what children need.

Children need our attention, and they need to see in our faces that all is ok. That we are ok in spite of what is going on around us.

Can you tune everything out and focus on giving a child, your own or someone else’s, what they need in this moment?

If you can, that makes you a special someone to this child looking to you for understanding, for the right words or just for your shoulder, your ear or a hand to hold.

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In almost every case or situation brought to my attention, there is a child at risk – at risk of not getting these basic needs filled. In some of those cases, the risk involves emotional abuse, neglect, physical abuse and even sexual abuse.

Often I see that basic needs are not being met, or there is emotional abandonment along with increased stress, and this is happening because parents are persuaded to focus their time and attention elsewhere, when the most important thing in their world…this child…is going without.

Stay present in the moment.

No matter how frustrating, difficult or lonely your situation may be, make a point to look regularly into the eyes of the child who needs you to be all in, connected to what it on his or her mind.

Listen and look into his or her eyes for your clue as to what it is you are supposed to provide to make things better. Sometimes it is just your ability to be patient and available that brings peace.

If someone or something pulls at you or tempts you to ignore, to be too busy, to be missing from this child, trust your love and your gut to instead provide what is needed now for this child, as this is what will last a lifetime.

Now, months after writing this post, I am updating it to add that when I began studying the impact on children of family conflict and what is worsening and prolonging conflict, it became apparent that more and more children are being destabilized, even being set up to fail in how their parents are treated in court cases. We can see how mental health is being eroded as parents become LESS available while uncertainty increases.

These are the children who are becoming vulnerable to exploitation and trafficking, and this path to devastation is one we can turn around. But we need your help!

Get involved with Safe Harbor and the organizations such as Youth Spark and others in your community working to stop exploitation of our children and to help victims of trafficking recover.

Thank you!

Deb Beacham

Sexual Assault Awareness

April is sexual assault awareness month, but this is something we need to focus on every month, every day. There are more children and adult victims around us than you could imagine. So please learn to recognize the signs and know what the resources are to guide to for help.

Please take this seriously and shine a light into dark corners where predators hide, and where certain professionals profit by helping to block evidence and testimony to help these children. Child abuse is a crime, and so is covering up child abuse. #ProfitOverProtection

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Child abuse can be prevented

Focus on Reform to Protect Children

Are you paying attention to the news stories revealing how difficult it is for children to receive protection?

CBS Atlanta excerpt:

“Ruby Moore is the executive director of the Georgia Advocacy Group, a nonprofit organization that works with and for people with mental and/or physical disabilities. Moore said she is outraged that a Fulton County judge ruled Melanie Pickens cannot be prosecuted on child abuse charges.”

I spend a lot of time with professionals, especially in the healthcare community, looking at why so many children are struggling especially when the family has the resources and desire to avoid it.

Please read this post on My Advocate Center.  Children deserve protection, at home AND at school!

Many kids can't speak for themselves, which means available evidence really needs to count!  Protect Children Georgia.
Many kids can’t speak for themselves, which means available evidence really needs to count! Protect Children Georgia.

You know how much I talk about the “needs of children” right?  Well, I was almost beside myself when I saw that special needs children, who can’t speak for themselves to report abuse, were being disregarded as victims because the judge was more concerned with using an immunity rule for teachers.

So, yes, the professionals I work with are delving into that issue.  If you have anything to contribute to this story and the application of the immunity rule, please let me know?  You can connect with me on LinkedIn or email via My Advocate Center’s contact page.

 

Thank you!

Deb Beacham