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Coaching Kids who Need Support

Deb Beacham advocates for children having the best that both parents have to offer.

Have you heard the saying, “It takes a Village to raise a child?”

If you’re a kid then maybe you have not heard this – but I’d like for you to think about it for a minute:

This is an idea that many people believe to be true.  This is because we all believe that you – our children – are our most important purpose in life.

NOTHING is more important than your well-being.  You matter, and you matter BIG time!

Kids: let us know if you don't have what you need, or if you are trying to reconnect with a parent you lost during a divorce.
Kids: let us know if you don’t have what you need, or if you are trying to reconnect with a parent you lost during a divorce.

 

We adults have to work together to help you grow up strong, healthy and able to enjoy life and all that is wonderful about you, and about our world.  You deserve to feel safe and secure, and to be peaceful in your surroundings, and you deserve the best that your parents and family can give you.

I really believe this is true, and this is my commitment to YOU.  I say this for my children, for their friends and for all of you who are reading this on my website and blog.

If you are reading this, chances are that you are struggling with some challenge in your life that is really hard for you to overcome by yourself.   And you shouldn’t feel like you have to do this on your own…we adults have responsibility for helping you through these things.

You need people to believe you, believe in your right to be free and healthy, and you need people who will speak up on your behalf.  So here goes:

If someone is getting in the way of your rights, we adults and advocates and especially parents need to know about it.  If someone is hurting you in ANY way, we need you to be strong and tell us.  It’s the only way we can handle the people who are hurting you – and it is the only way we can help you.

You are very brave.  So know that I and our “village” recognize that, and are here to support you.  You are NOT alone.

And even if someone has disappointed you in the past when you’ve asked for help, please know that it is ok to feel disappointed and to even be angry at someone who didn’t follow through and help you.  Even though that felt bad, and you may be worried that someone else will disappoint you, I want you to try this again.

I do know that this is hard, and that when you’ve been hurt it is easier to stay quiet and to give in to shame and fear than it is to speak up and ask for help.  Just know that we can work through that, ok?

It is your right to be supported and helped through this.  So please ask your parent or another adult you trust to let me know how I can help you and them.

Who am I?

I am a Mother – one who has worked hard to help my own children overcome fear, worry and sadness.  There were people who got in my way and caused my children to hurt a lot.  So we know how you feel, and how your parents feel. My children are healthy and happy now, so if I can help them…then I can help YOU.  (No, I don’t do this alone; there are lots of great people here who want to help you!   It’s important to know I do this because I’m a good PARENT.  I work with both mothers and fathers to help kids get what they need.  Sometimes parents need help…so let’s see what we can do for them, too, ok?)

I am an Advocate – this means I work in our community to help others see what they need to do, helping them to do it BETTER, so that you can get what you need.  Does that make sense?

I am a COACH!  This is my JOB.  I lift other people up and make them stronger, so that we can all make things better for you – our kids.   If you have P.E. at school, or know about sports, you know about coaches, right?  I love coaching kids!  It’s my favorite thing to do…so think of me as someone who can help you do better in this challenging “game” that you want to win.

Our Community:

Did you know … there are many people here who want to help you?  Leaders in our business community, in our schools, at our hospitals and in our neighborhoods…all who want to work to see you get what you need!

So if this feels right to you – and you can help me help YOU – ask an adult to help you get in touch with me.

How do we get in touch with each other?  Easy… Use this page – click HERE – to send me your email and/or phone number. 

 ~ Keep being Yourself ~ Believe ~ Play ~ Dream ~ Be a Kid! ~

Your Take-Aways

What am I about?

We may have met through friends, at the radio studio, by introduction on LinkedIn, or you may have found my name in a search about resolving conflict or addressing ethics issues that are causing harm to children and families.

What I do is not just for the sake of building a blog or about making noise; what I write and say on Pro Advocate Radio is meant to encourage transparency, debate, and the development and funding of SOLUTIONS. Ethical solutions that leave our families, children, businesses, schools and our state in a better place than where we found them.

Moral principles highlighted in green under the heading Ethics.
I’m a Peace-Keeper and Problem-Solver.  Marketing and promoting are secondary, a means to an end.  I’m after quality of life, solid mental and physical health, productivity and enjoyment. For all of us and especially for our children.

Children and our Community. If it is good for kids, then it is good for me and for you as parents, as educators and coaches, as financial, legal, healthcare professionals…and as leaders.

Here is where we may differ: I chose to take some risk by challenging bad practices and explaining how damages are being caused – avoidable damages – and daring good people to do something about it. Sometimes that means I’m not popular or politically correct in certain circles, and I take that as a compliment.

Also, there is a notion in some areas of “leadership” and governance, including governing boards of companies and agencies, that “Doing the Right Thing” by children, families and the public has to be difficult and expensive. Some have said, that’s just too big of a problem, that’s just how it is and has been for decades…so there’s nothing we can DO about it; but others are asking, how can WE make a difference?

I’m asking you to help create more voices who will ask that last question, to see how it is possible – not just IDEAL – to do the right thing as you pursue a career, a better quality of life, more influence and opportunity for yourself.

Many seem to think those don’t go together, that they are mutually exclusive. They are not.

Would you like to see the How and Why?  Yes…I can show you.

I am so grateful to be in a position to build profit and show returns on investments, while lifting others up. We can and should do more to protect and uplift people who need it, and we can be profitable and efficient while being effective. We can enjoy this work and even have fun doing it. I hope you agree!

Profit is not a bad word, so I would peacefully challenge anyone who speaks as if being an entrepreneur, investing for a return, or working like a capitalist is a negative thing, and ask them to look at our work, to look at the results and to see what scaling this work can mean for many more. This is why I use the #IDareYou hashtag on some of my posts. Why not take a hard look at how we can do better?

To those who are uncertain about supporting Social Enterprise, is there a way to meet in the middle? I believe so and also ask that you not label me or ask me to color inside the lines. It’s time for new attitudes and something different…both are needed to disrupt the status quo.

If you can relate to terms such Social Enterprise, Civic Venture, and can relate to being conservatively compassionate or a compassionate conservative, then you might already understand why I work and write the way I do.  If you saw the news coverage that included my work with My Advocate Center, then even better!  You are one step ahead in understanding the urgency of this work, and in knowing why I and others on our team ask for support.

The bottom line I ask everyone to focus on:

Where and how are you making a difference, and for whom? What does your power and influence or status do for others?  Specifically how are you using what you have and can do for children and families fighting for stability, health and to protect their relationships?

If you talk about the healthcare industry, the burden on our healthcare system, or on schools, law enforcement, the housing industry, etc., but you are only looking at it from the perspective of your insurance costs or shareholder value, then I’ll challenge you to rethink this a bit.

…Because the Damages to Children are having an impact on your bottom line. This has a lot to do with trauma, and addressing how we can prevent more injury and help victims recover faster. We have been covering this on Pro Advocate Radio, and I will address this topic in more detail in the white paper being produced for My Advocate Center and community leaders.

When you’re ready, let’s open up this conversation and see if I can help you learn what you need to know to make a difference in your own way!

What else should you know about me?
Well…I’m certain and confident in this work, in the advocate I’ve become and in the team we’ve built.  I am patient but impatient at the same time because of what I see daily. When blazing trails and taking on tough subjects, you also have to be bold, creative, persistent. Being inclusive is the only way we can really drive lasting change, so please join us!

Thank you for reading, for listening to Pro Advocate Radio and, as always, I’d love to have your feedback and your support in this mission,

Deb Beacham

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