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Focusing Parents on What Matters

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It’s so easy to get lost in keeping up appearances, competing or trying to get the upper hand or trying to defend our positions that we forget about what matters.

Our kids need our focus on them, their safety, peace of mind and the assurance that we have things covered; it is not up to them to make us feel calm, confident, supported or reassured.

This video puts a fun spin on how we treat each other as parents, and on how we deal with our differences. Click the link below to the “Boys Germs” Facebook page and look for the video to the left. Enjoy!

This parenting clip is brilliant…must watch to the end!!

Posted by Boys Germs on Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Power is more Valuable when Shared

Trial and Error:  we know how crucial this is to progress, for change to occur.

We’ve all tried to gain and retain power.  Hopefully along the way we’ve realized that when you try too hard to control everything, to be the ONE in power and to use power for your own benefit, it’s just not enough.  It backfires.

That is something that I had to learn.  Being Type A and all…

Power comes from God and when we try to claim and use it ourselves, it becomes meaningless if not harmful.  More backfiring than anything.

So why not share any sense of power that you have and see what happens?

Let someone else feel the sense of being in control of a situation, or the satisfaction of receiving credit or being in the spotlight.  See what they do with it.  You never know; you might just gain a greater sense of control and power by being the generous one and sharing what you know you possess.

It sounds like an uncertain proposition, but I can tell you that it works.  Unless you are mostly concerned with appearances, that is.

If you are secure and confident, you’ll have no issue with giving someone else a chance to feel their own power, sense of security in their ability or status.

Try this at work, at home or with a challenging neighbor.   Your children are different – they need to know you are in control and that they are safe and secure with you in charge and running interference, but you can still find ways to help them claim strength, confidence and realize that they, too, can own power and use it wisely.   Show them how to empower and uplift others and you are giving them the priceless gift of owning power.  You have to own it to be able to give it away.   Giving to others puts you more in control of your universe.

Seeing change in others when you empower them or support their cause…whether you are doing this in the military for citizens of another country, as a teacher in middle school, or advocating for parents as an attorney or counselor, just know this is your gift to claim, feel good about and then pay forward.