A reminder to self…to keep it simple.
When you know your own mind, no one else can make it up for you or force you off course for lack of resolve or clarity.
My title here should be, The Rewards of Standing Your Ground, but I’ll save that for my next post.
When least expected you may face an attack on your character, on your business and reputation; or the attack may come at you as a parent, or even on all of the above. Yes, unfortunately I know this personally and can attest to the uncomfortable consequences, but I also expect to demonstrate the rewards of learning and growing from the experience.
It’s a choice to stay in the experience rather than running from it, and it’s a choice – sometimes an hourly one – to grow from it and seek the purpose in the lesson. Some people wonder why I don’t take their advice and just let it go and move on to something else, but more of those who know me or those who can see why I stand my ground so often (which means more litigation than I care to discuss here), express admiration and encouragement for staying the course. I’m grateful and very blessed to have more new friends and signs of support than I can count. Fortunately I’m also not alone in being bull-headed about righting wrongs and addressing foul play.
I draw strength from seeing how others handle these attacks, especially when someone stands their ground when the cost is very high. Even better is when others join forces because they know the person’s work and character are compelling, meaningful to society and worth fighting for. If you see some of my posts on LinkedIn, Twitter and occasionally on Facebook about a fight going on, about creating transparency over professional misconduct or about child abuse, I hope you’ll remember this explanation here on my personal blog.
I want more people to realize they can overcome retaliation and improve personally and at work from dealing with the consequences of standing up to those who willfully steal, lie and litigate to cause harm. And as I’m frequently told, if someone is retaliating against you and trying to bring you down, it’s likely because you’re doing something right, something of value for society.
Two people I am proud to know and cheer for in their ongoing battles against wrongdoing and false allegations are Michael J. Daugherty and Mark Thomason, both from Georgia. Both were just doing their jobs, diligently and with integrity, contributing to society by building their own businesses and giving back when they were ambushed.
One owns a medical testing lab and the other is a publisher of a small, rural newspaper. Not much in common and they would probably never cross paths except they are both now in the news – in the spotlight because they are standing up to corrupted behavior and attempted cover-ups by government officials and/or agencies.
Both are duking it out with the bad actors in litigation and in social media, and both on principle…because someone has to so that more innocent people and upstanding businesses are not harmed. Daugherty, now an author and spokesman on cybersecurity and government overreach, has been calling out the witch hunt on the federal agency level, while Thomason’s open records requests were made on a hyper-local level (Blue Ridge, Georgia, in the Appalachian Judicial Circuit) but leading to national recognition and support from news media.
Watching the events unfold in their respective fights is somewhat like looking in a mirror, and when you learn more about what sparked their fights, you may be able to relate on some level. If that’s the case, I hope that you are inspired and find something to draw strength from as I have. When someone does harm to you or to a person or place you care about, and you feel called to do something about it, prepare for and expect the blowback!
I believe both Michael and Mark will affirm that it will worsen before it gets better and relief arrives, but there is no greater satisfaction (outside of parenting, personally) than showing you have what it takes, including a network of support, to prevail in the end.
Please check out their stories – Mike Daugherty and Mark Thomason – and follow the updates on these cases. The retaliation against these good men is alarming, blatant and clearly meant to destroy, but I expect both will prevail and that our society will be better off for the stands they are taking.
Mark’s updates can be seen on the Fannin Focus Facebook page when other news media report on the situation, so this is the easiest way to keep up with Mark.
Twitter is my favorite way to keep up with Mike and the banter about data security, privacy, and the hacking done by Tiversa to create profits from false allegations against his business. Unreal! [This reminds of a couple other Georgia cases involving computer security experts being used to create false criminal claims, which were turned into profits for a few attorneys and their experts; one of these cases involves a story of national interest, so you’ll see more coming out on this one].
Your story, I am guessing, is also worth telling and I’m glad to read or listen, and to invite you to talk about it when Pro Advocate Radio returns for its next season!
Watch this WSB-TV report to go deeper into the saga exposing judicial impropriety, retaliation against reporters who ask too many questions and to see how our news media are responding.
Georgia College student Christina shares her perspective on why she switched from supporting Ted Cruz to using her voice to help get Senator Marco Rubio elected as our next president.
Christina is informed, thoughtful and well-spoken, and is hoping that more millennials will vote and vote thoughtfully about how to keep America great and about how they can make a difference.
As Christina explains in our initial interview with her for Pro Advocate Radio, she has done her homework and has spoken with Senator March Rubio three times herself to gain personal insight and accurate information so she is making informed decisions. Her wish is that more college students will also be bold thinkers and learn more about the candidates before voting on Super Tuesday and beyond. Thank you, Christina, for setting a great example for other students, millennials and for the rest of us! [Yes, I turned the microphone over to her after this; she is quite remarkable!]
When many speak of child advocacy it seems they are counting on only one political party to care or take action. When I’ve spoken about the work I do at My Advocate Center some will even ask, “Why aren’t you a Democrat then?” They seem surprised that I am conservative and that I look toward Republican leadership to make improvements in child and family protections. Over the last few years I’ve explored this question for myself and have found that political views or party affiliation have no place in the minds of the true advocates pushing to rescue children, to intervene in society’s pitfalls and to change policy.
A Georgia businessman I’ve been getting to know when visiting the Capitol and events related to stopping child trafficking has raised the bar in showing how you can make a positive impact while collaborating with people from across every sector and with others who have different perspectives in areas such as faith and politics. For Dave McCleary it’s a simple matter of showing up and using the resources you have available to drive change.
When I saw Dave at a campaign event for Marco Rubio for President, I of course wanted to know what it is about Senator Rubio that has earned Dave’s support for this presidential candidate. As I’m sure you will be, I’m grateful to learn that Rubio has the same fire in his gut for helping our vulnerable citizens, especially exploited children and battered women. Please listen to what Dave has to say about the man, the father and leader Marco Rubio.
There is no way to fathom the intensity of emotion for a woman (or for her man) who heard God’s voice telling her she was to bear a child and that He would be the Son of God. So I won’t go there…but if I could speak to Mary I would want her to know how I feel about her as a mother.
If you will listen to these words and allow yourself for even a moment to try to comprehend the meaning of this, it may change your perspective on faith, on God as the giver of life because He loves us and wants a relationship with us, on why Christmas is exciting and special, and help you see that Easter is the ultimate follow up to the celebration of Christ’s birth.
Whatever your background or beliefs I hope you will read this and LISTEN with an open mind and share it in the spirit intended. You may not want to trust in or to receive something so simple and meaningful from God, but at least let your questions surface and seek out answers from someone you feel safe talking with.
In my role as advocate and catalyst for change expands I’m getting to know more about why people believe what they believe, how they show it or do not; and I also respect your freedom to choose your beliefs and to express them (or not). So I’m open to discussion and welcome you to join in as we engage our community in talks about faith, religious freedom, spirituality and managing life’s challenges, about where God is in all this mess…where He is in our successes and accomplishments, and how we reconcile our work, choices and political stances with our beliefs.
For now, please listen, share and make the most of this Christmas and holiday season!
A Better Life without the sex trade…is possible. So is recovery with the help of the right legal team.
Welcome to US CLAWS, an Atlanta Non-Profit fired up about putting out the raging fire of child abuse, sex trafficking and child trafficking that is so prevalent in our society.
We can’t ignore any longer such an unhealthy trend and such easy access as predators have, and with close to zero accountability and virtually no chance of recovery for victims of the sex trade.
Now is your chance to make a difference:
Please visit the website for US CLAWS and join us at the GALA this September.
Tune in to ProAdvocateRadio.com on August 31st at 10am to learn more!
Thanks for your support of CLAWS and Pro Advocate Radio,
It’s so easy to get lost in keeping up appearances, competing or trying to get the upper hand or trying to defend our positions that we forget about what matters.
Our kids need our focus on them, their safety, peace of mind and the assurance that we have things covered; it is not up to them to make us feel calm, confident, supported or reassured.
This video puts a fun spin on how we treat each other as parents, and on how we deal with our differences. Click the link below to the “Boys Germs” Facebook page and look for the video to the left. Enjoy!
Pediatric Cancer and the effort to raise funds and awareness is something that unites all of us, regardless of whether cancer has touched our lives or not.
The wonderful people I’ve gotten to know through St. Baldrick’s Foundation events are tirelessly making a real difference for children, so I asked Business RadioX in Buckhead to help us get the word out more.
Please listen to the PSA and radio show segment here that features Suzie Ruddle, the leader for the Meehan’s Public House fundraising events.
Another show aired leading up to the March 14th event, with mom Tammy McGrath who shared her experience with us as she and her son Christian battled his cancer. He has been clear for several years now so his is a success story! Christian took time off from school to talk about his friends and what it means to have this kind of support.
The McGrath family and many others make this head-shaving event come to life, and they are incredible ambassadors for St. Baldrick’s Foundation and in the fight against pediatric cancer.
Learn more: http://www.stbaldricks.org/campaigns/meehans