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Rising Above It All

Can you imagine being asked to help someone who has fallen on hard times?  Yes, of course.

But what if you helped that person and they betrayed you?  It uncomfortable, but life happens.

Bear with me – this gets a bit more intense and strange.

What if the person you helped actually staged photos of your home, without your permission, and posted them online to use in promoting their cleaning services?

Doesn’t feel good, does it?

Now – imagine this person saw an opportunity to better their position in life and in business by using photos of your home to help someone else.  Think betrayal – as in the photos are given to your opponent in a court case while you are kept in the dark, unaware that this relationship has formed and that this person who made you believe she is here to help you is actually acting to cause you harm.

Where would you start?  How do you address such unscrupulous behavior?

Of course you turn first to how you can keep things peaceful for your children; the less drama the better, right?

But what if the person you trusted to help you at home decides to become involved in taking your children from you?  What do you do then?

Do you expose the situation publicly, or do you let karma take care of it?

#BuyerBeware

 

Thinning the Thin Blue Line for Political Gain

A candidate spoke of the positives coming out of the violence at his political rally. Yes, he did.

No mention of the injured officer or of the waste of our tax dollars caused by his inciting of violence and intentionally divisive, inflammatory words and conduct. But he did speculate it could be good for his vote count while talking to media and even went on to talk about himself and his supporters as being the victims for having their first amendment rights denied.

This could be the thinning of what is already a thin blue line.

What does #ThinBlueLine mean?

The Thin Blue Line is a symbol used by law enforcement, originating in the United Kingdom but now prevalent in the United States and Canada to commemorate fallen officers and to symbolize the relationship of the police in the community as the protectors of the citizenry from the criminal element. In my opinion this line gets thinner when people treat law enforcement with disrespect and make their jobs harder, and integrity – or the lack of it – has everything to do with this problem.

Think. When we unnecessarily make police work harder by inciting violence we – candidates who activate hate, racism, fear, anti-semitism, and more – undermine our officers’ ability to protect and to serve as they are trying to do.

Poor judgment by candidates increases the risk to our officers, to families and children, to businesses, and, yes, to reporters as well. When you put down women, minorities and lie about what you’re doing, you’re inviting in abuse…but this candidate then rewards it with more fanfare.

When we create situations that cause law enforcement to have to react – and these are avoidable situations – we are wasting our resources, taking officers away from areas where others are truly in need of protection.

This candidate said about a protestor, “I was ready for him,” Trump said. “But it’s much easier if the cops do it.” This says he knows what he’s doing, escalating fear and hate, but that it’s not his problem, it’s law enforcement’s problem. And…it’s OUR problem as taxpayers, as parents, as business owners, etc. This doesn’t help us – – it hurts us.

Consider these statements in this CNN report:

Trump campaign manager Corey Lewandowski added, “We don’t make decisions in a vacuum. We coordinate with all the appropriate law enforcement.”

But Anthony Guglielmi, a Chicago police spokesman, told CNN that Trump’s claim that he informed a police commander before making the decision to cancel the rally was “absolutely untrue.”

“No one from the campaign contacted the Chicago Police Department and we were not involved at all in canceling the event,” Guglielmi told CNN. [So this candidate’s going to subject our officers to greater risk, and our citizens, and then lie about his campaign’s conduct while blaming police.]

“I was literally standing next to the superintendent when we were notified by the university that the event had been canceled. I think a lot of people were surprised, including the Secret Service officer standing next to us who was notified at the same time.”

Guglielmi added that police then dispatched an additional 100 police officers to the University of Illinois arena, where the event was being held, to assist with crowd control.

What if, Mr. Presidential Candidate, instead of stirring up violent protests for the sake of attention, media ratings and to distract from your own misconduct, you managed in a way that encourages law enforcement to use their time and energy to rescue victims of child trafficking and to pursue the predators in each area you visit?

That is what honoring law enforcement and protecting our vulnerable citizens looks like, when you choose what is right for them over what your ego demands.

If enough people say the truth over and over again maybe it will start to resonate with voters who still have integrity and empathy for people.

To the millions who are struggling, losing children, homes, health and jobs, I hope you’ll consider the attitude and example of candidates and watch how they treat others. If someone is cavalier about risking the lives of our officers, retaliates against a victim of violence for speaking out, threatens anyone who speaks out against him and rewards those who put profits over facts, what chance do you think we’ll have of getting him to care about the plight of families and children? Where on his list of priorities do you think your family will fall?

Respond to me on Twitter @DebBeachamATL or @MyAdvocateCentr, or via MyAdvocateCenter.com.

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center
Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center

 

Keeping Your Sense of Humor

Each day this call to action becomes more important as we are inundated with negativity messages and personal attacks, because we dared to speak our mind and take a stand about something important.

As you filter out the negative political attacks and the biased news media reports, preserve your health and sanity by either not responding, or responding with a sense of humor. What is most effective is the short and sweet, positive / above the fray type of message.

One of my favorite recently heart remarks is from Governor Nikki Halley when she came back at Donald with, “Bless your heart,” to one of his blustering and bullying put-downs.

Don’t just smile, create some of your own and save them up since you don’t know when you might need to have one or two handy to deal with people who want to slow your work down (because it makes them look bad or feel inferior), or people who say untrue or cruel things about you because they want to escape consequences for their own actions. Don’t worry about what is wrong with them, just focus on lifting yourself, or someone you support, up and over the scoundrels who want you to go off the cliff with them.

Charm school or the funny papers you read with grandpa may just pay off!

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham Driving Change

 

Where Do You Find Hope? Part One

What I’m supposed to say is that I find my hope in God’s word and while that is true, I’m also like many of my peers (and I don’t fake it well!). We relate in wanting something or someone we can see with our own eyes, and we want clear plans and promises we can wrap our minds around. We want to see and know that someone we trust will follow through and deliver on what we need and expect.

No, that isn’t faith but it is a part of being human, of being real and normal.

As long as we can keep the perspective that politicians are just as human as we are, and as long as we don’t displace our hope and faith by leaving it in their hands instead of in God’s hands, then we can find peace. Then we can more effectively use our voices – and our votes – in the political process.

During this intense and uncertain time of a hotly contested presidential election we monitor, judge, compare notes and spar with each other because we want to be heard, and heard over others. We probably even want to be validated by others in our choices. But most of all we want to know that our hope in someone or in certain ideals will manifest into reality, meaning a better life and more certainty and stability. Of course it’s a slippery slope if we are betting on / believing in someone who just talks a good game…as opposed to having game.

IMG_0129Rather than share more of my own thoughts I wanted to give others a chance to think out loud and to express their hopes, dreams, feelings, questions and to even show enthusiasm if they felt inspired to do so.

When the opportunity came to join the press ranks at the campaign event for Senator Marco Rubio this final weekend of February, I realized as I stepped into the crowd what I was supposed to do. We’re in the final days leading up to the Georgia Republican Primary on Tuesday, March 1st, I’m just happy to be here, but also grateful we live where we don’t have to fear retaliation for speaking our minds. So I decided to make the most of it for the people who came out to learn more and to support someone who gives them hope. They were pleased – enthusiastic is a better word – to share their opinions and to use their voices this way.

I’m also grateful for the Georgia college student who joined me in giving others a voice on this day, so if you meet Christina, please congratulate her on a job well done! I could not have covered the turf (or the stands holding thousands) like we did today without her help.

Christina Wants To Know Why Rubio for

Just watch…and listen.

Christina’s First Interview

Listen Carefully to Those Who Want Your Vote

My advice? Don’t just listen to what is being said now but also go back in time. And it’s about so much more than words; it’s about actions and how you treat others while going after what you want for yourself.

I’m doing my best to stay positive, to avoid getting caught up in anti anything talks or name-calling – – that serves no purpose. If we are going to protect our citizens, give children what they need to thrive, improve our systems – including legal immigration, healthcare, education and more – we have to stand up to divisiveness of all kinds.  On the flip side we have to search for integrity and for those who will follow through on solutions that will help our families and children and lead us out of danger.

Show me what you stand for and how you use your resources and connections to back up what you say, and you might get my vote.

 

Launching Big Ideas: Happy New Year!

If you’re going to go…go BIG!

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Here’s to hoping that whatever big ideas and plans you have for this year, that you are confident, supported, excited, and ready to launch in this New Year of 2015.

Looking forward to learning what you’re up to and hearing about what inspires you; so let’s get together soon!

Stay safe and peaceful, my friends and family,

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham

16 Rules – Taking One Per Week

Which one is your favorite?

Don’t just read these or smile over a few; take one with you each week or month, and let me know how you apply it?

  1. Get and stay out of your comfort zone.  (WHAT comfort zone??  Nov 2013 is when I realized there is no such thing for me as a comfort zone. I’ve learned to be comfortable with uncertainty, with not knowing what is behind doors number 1, 2 OR 3!)
  2. Never give up
  3. When you’re ready to quit, you’re closer than you think
  4. With regard to whatever worries you, not only accept the worst thing that could happen, but make it a point to quantify what the worst thing could be
  5. Focus on what you want to have happen
  6. Take things a day at a time
  7. Always be moving forward
  8. Be quick to decide
  9. Measure everything of significance
  10. Anything that is not managed will deteriorate
  11. Pay attention to your competitors, but pay more attention to what you’re doing
  12. Never let anybody push you around
  13. Never expect life to be fair
  14. Solve your own problems
  15. Don’t take yourself too seriously
  16. There’s always a reason to smile.

Forget “One-a-Day” — best policy is to live with each concept thoroughly and get it right before focusing on the next.  I’ll add my own comments in parentheses after each rule, so please share and add your own as well.  What do these rules mean to you, and how will you apply them?

Thanks to my dear friend who knows my fondness for digital marketing leaders like Bob Parsons, and shared this with me recently.

 

Bob Parsons® 16 Rules for Success in Business and Life in General

Please read the entire text and share: Copyright © 2004 Bob Parsons http://www.bobparsons.me. All rights reserved. Reproduced with permission.

The Glass Ceiling

Someone came up to me recently and boldly said, “Who are you and where did you come from?”

I took it as a compliment and replied, “I’m an advocate working on improving community, health and performance.”  Where I came from:  Literally, Miami.  Figuratively, from a place where many don’t want to visit.

What you are seeing evolve online is the result of challenging myself to do more with what I have.

This began by watching young children in hospitals dealing with medical challenges – starting when I volunteered in high school and then through college, and as a parent of a Failure-to-Thrive child.

Then, as I watched disabled and in-pain wheelchair athletes compete and inspire a crowd, it dawned on me that I should be doing more with what I have.  So there you have it.

What are you doing to break through the Glass Ceiling that we place over and around ourselves?

What is Your Plan?

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