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Focusing Parents on What Matters

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It’s so easy to get lost in keeping up appearances, competing or trying to get the upper hand or trying to defend our positions that we forget about what matters.

Our kids need our focus on them, their safety, peace of mind and the assurance that we have things covered; it is not up to them to make us feel calm, confident, supported or reassured.

This video puts a fun spin on how we treat each other as parents, and on how we deal with our differences. Click the link below to the “Boys Germs” Facebook page and look for the video to the left. Enjoy!

This parenting clip is brilliant…must watch to the end!!

Posted by Boys Germs on Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Are you surprised?

I keep hearing from people that they had no idea what was going on, what was happening to “good families” all around them.

It’s because we’re told to not say anything, to keep the “drama” behind closed doors – meaning behind the doors of certain lawyer’s offices!   Or behind the door of the custody evaluator who says things that make you think one moment that you and your kids will be fine, and then make you feel “crazy” the next.   If you say anything to people who have never witnessed this, they look at you in a strange way…and wonder.

So I shared this through our audience at My Advocate Center:

For those of you in our community who are just now hearing about “problems” with how family conflict is being handled – or mishandled – we appreciate you stopping by.

Much of what is happening is just bizarre. This makes no sense…and you can’t fathom that these things would be going on.

If you read a report about “damages” and the location was shown to be some third-world country, you would believe it, right? But hearing that this is happening in your own backyard, where we have rules and laws that should apply…can make you want to shake the thought from your mind, and then move on.

* Please pause a moment. *

The parents in the cases we report on were like you, and not that long ago.

They never dreamed things like this could happen.

They would not have believed that they could be cut off from children, trapped in a legal process that appears to be never-ending, bankrupted or caused to lose homes – just because they realized they had to hire a lawyer and go to court to handle a situation.

If you want to learn more, and to find a way to help these good parents and their children, but without reading about the more stress-inducing situations, please let us know.

LEGISLATORS & State Capitol staff:

Thank you for taking the time.
Thank you for seeing past the “drama” you read about and can’t relate to.

Thank you for considering the needs of your constituents and our children…over what might be easy for your peers.

Please keep asking questions, and looking for answers. They are available.