Posts in "Advocacy for Parents & Children" category

Drama vs Compassion

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It would be so easy to sensationalize an expensive, high-profile case I’ve been keeping an eye on, but that would that mean setting aside empathy and the mission of supporting the best interests of families and children. I can’t and won’t do it.

This week I am having to choose between reporting something shocking or guiding content in a way that leads to something better for people engaging the legal system because they are either going on offense and being forced to defend.

This post will evolve as my report on the case is completed, but for now I’m logging the sadness I felt in observing a tough family matter being exploited in court. My personal belief is that this family has been through enough, and professionally I believe it’s time for the lawyers escalating the family conflict be stopped in their tracks.

A professional who has exploited a number of cases I’ve observed allowed her client to be exposed for using the court system in an abusive manner, showing he was acting in bad faith. When I say “allowed,” I mean that it is my belief that this could have been avoided with minimal and reasonable effort by this man’s counsel.  It’s just more profitable to allow offensive legal actions to ride – even when they make no sense and serve no valid purpose.

But it does not seem that he acted on his own, and it is clear this stressful, expensive and time-consuming trial is a waste of the court’s time and of the family’s time and money.

I wonder what could have been resolved and corrected her if counsel had been willing to help him avoid the embarrassment and discomfort seen and felt in court today.

This man admitted that “had he known” what he was learning in court through the exposure of the facts, he would not have filed the action against his ex-wife. He seemed confused at times, still wanting to “get” his ex in some way, but not able to support his feelings and actions with facts. He was flapping out in the wind, and this was preceded by his counsel laughing, saying, “We aren’t fighting…we are having a PARTY at (their) expense.”

This appears to be a big mess that could have been avoided if his counsel had truly been acting in his best interests, and upholding duty to him and heeding ethics rules and our laws.

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To be continued…

Calling All Golfers: Save the Date

Heritage Links 4_DC Trip for Students

Save the date, golf-loving friends!

March 28, 2016 at Heritage Links – Stay tuned for prize details & sponsorship news.

Heritage Links 3_DC Trip for Students

Challenging course, great company and food, and all for a good cause.

We are sending kids to Washington D.C. to learn more about our government and country’s history.  This is the kind of trip every middle school and high school student should have a chance to enjoy, and we expect it will create even more enthusiasm for young minds to turn their energy and talent into something that will brighten the future for America and our citizens.

Heritage Links A_DC Trip for Students

Please send me a note on LinkedIn or through if you’d like to learn more, and of course I’ll be posting updates here!

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Community Safety

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There’s no question that we can do better as a community, as a state and as a nation.

The numbers are discouraging when you hear or read about children losing parents due to misguided court professionals, false claims of abuse or neglect, and about the loss of homes due to bad practices found in many court cases.

We have the ability right now – an opportunity to have a huge impact – by supporting solutions to the challenges facing parents who are fighting to support, nurture and protect their children.

Please continue reading here and on and listen to each week, or follow our podcast discussions as you have time. Please send questions or feedback through the contact form on My Advocate Center’s website.

Sexual Assault Awareness

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April is sexual assault awareness month, but this is something we need to focus on every month, every day. There are more children and adult victims around us than you could imagine. So please learn to recognize the signs and know what the resources are to guide to for help.

Please take this seriously and shine a light into dark corners where predators hide, and where certain professionals profit by helping to block evidence and testimony to help these children. Child abuse is a crime, and so is covering up child abuse. #ProfitOverProtection

Child abuse can be prevented

Focusing Parents on What Matters

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It’s so easy to get lost in keeping up appearances, competing or trying to get the upper hand or trying to defend our positions that we forget about what matters.

Our kids need our focus on them, their safety, peace of mind and the assurance that we have things covered; it is not up to them to make us feel calm, confident, supported or reassured.

This video puts a fun spin on how we treat each other as parents, and on how we deal with our differences. Click the link below to the “Boys Germs” Facebook page and look for the video to the left. Enjoy!

This parenting clip is brilliant…must watch to the end!!

Posted by Boys Germs on Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Protecting Even the Little Things, Like Freedom

Grandparents With Grandchildren On Walk In Countryside

You would never expect me to say freedom is a little thing, would you?

For many parents, children, grandparents and even for their advocates, freedom to speak and freedom to protect are rights that we can lose, even right here in the U.S.A. That’s not the way it’s supposed to work, so we’re not prepared for it when this happens.

It’s not the best news to share that this is happening to us, no matter what we have going for us, no matter where we live or how innocent or good we are. We just don’t talk about it openly, and typically because we’re told not to… But when this silencing of parents and children happens…to avoid exposure and reporting of misconduct…what you see from the outside is a look of confusion, shock, depression or something you might say is off, but whatever it is, you want no part of it!

So I appreciate little things like being able to take rides on any open road, to open windows and to feel the cool air, and to enjoy kids waving their arms and singing loudly.  They should always have this freedom to be kids and to be unencumbered with news of the challenges we adults face.

If you know how to make this easier for them…and have the means to support families in protecting these freedoms and the childhood pleasures most of us have taken for granted, please use your voice.

Help us keep the freedoms of childhood as they should be — building blocks for a healthy life.

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Please connect with me here and off-line if you have ideas you’d like to share!

Thank you,

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham


Sharing Peace and Hope This Holiday Season

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Merry Christmas to all my family, friends and to all of our supporters patiently and diligently working to improve safety and recovery for families and children.

I am so blessed to know you all!

I’m also overwhelmed with the gratitude expressed by families for the work we all do, for the sacrifices and for the milestones achieved.

What I am proposing here is a clean slate, or a fresh start to our conversations and in our approach to improving health, stability, and in dealing with the challenges we are facing as parents, grandparents, educators and advocates during high-stress times and through conflict.

We can do better now that we know more and have each other. We are inspired, motivated, resolved, and in great company!

“And the greatest of these is Love…”

There is an uplifting Christmas song that came to mind today…one you may have never heard on the radio or in church. My coach and counselor in high school sang it for us during Christmas at Florida Christian School in Miami. “Come on ring those bells…light the Christmas tree…Jesus, we remember this your birthday.” Please look up the full lyrics and listen to the song, no matter what you believe or what you’re going through. Thank you, Mrs. Martin, for your voice, for the words of wisdom shared, and for the example you and other teachers, coaches and school leaders set for us. That was Love…

Looking forward to sharing more with you all in the New Year, and engaging you in the solutions we are presenting as a team to our leadership in each state where we are involved.

If you would like to receive our newsletter and updates in January, please use this form for My Advocate Center and stay tuned for the launch of Pro Advocate Radio as well!

Thank you for being a part of this mission,

Deb Beacham




Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center
Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center


Inspiration Comes in Many Forms

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We often look for someone or something to be “perfect” before we focus on seeing inspiration or to follow someone’s lead.

This Dolphin Tale movie is one I’ve held dear since first seeing it, and the sequel was even better than the original movie. I hope you will enjoy it as much as I did!

First, get to know the true story…

In my world I see many people being held back by something physical or emotional, and learned that it helps me do better for myself as I take the time to figure out what children need, or what their parents need…and it always comes back ten-fold.

So this film validates how I feel, and that is that it is worth investing in others, and helping more people get the message.  You won’t know the difference you can make for others, and for yourself, until you really let go, and DIVE in!

See what is possible, and go for it!

While you’re at it, follow and share the inspiration found here: @CMAHope @WinterDolphin @dolphintale @ CMAquarium


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