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Consequences of Standing Your Ground

My title here should be, The Rewards of Standing Your Ground, but I’ll save that for my next post.

When least expected you may face an attack on your character, on your business and reputation; or the attack may come at you as a parent, or even on all of the above.  Yes, unfortunately I know this personally and can attest to the uncomfortable consequences, but I also expect to demonstrate the rewards of learning and growing from the experience.

It’s a choice to stay in the experience rather than running from it, and it’s a choice – sometimes an hourly one – to grow from it and seek the purpose in the lesson. Some people wonder why I don’t take their advice and just let it go and move on to something else, but more of those who know me or those who can see why I stand my ground so often (which means more litigation than I care to discuss here), express admiration and encouragement for staying the course. I’m grateful and very blessed to have more new friends and signs of support than I can count. Fortunately I’m also not alone in being bull-headed about righting wrongs and addressing foul play.

I draw strength from seeing how others handle these attacks, especially when someone stands their ground  when the cost is very high. Even better is when others join forces because they know the person’s work and character are compelling, meaningful to society and worth fighting for. If you see some of my posts on LinkedIn, Twitter and occasionally on Facebook about a fight going on, about creating transparency over professional misconduct or about child abuse, I hope you’ll remember this explanation here on my personal blog.

I want more people to realize they can overcome retaliation and improve personally and at work from dealing with the consequences of standing up to those who willfully steal, lie and litigate to cause harm. And as I’m frequently told, if someone is retaliating against you and trying to bring you down, it’s likely because you’re doing something right, something of value for society.

Two people I am proud to know and cheer for in their ongoing battles against wrongdoing and false allegations are Michael J. Daugherty and Mark Thomason, both from Georgia. Both were just doing their jobs, diligently and with integrity, contributing to society by building their own businesses and giving back when they were ambushed.

One owns a medical testing lab and the other is a publisher of a small, rural newspaper.  Not much in common and they would probably never cross paths except they are both now in the news – in the spotlight because they are standing up to corrupted behavior and attempted cover-ups by government officials and/or agencies.

Both are duking it out with the bad actors in litigation and in social media, and both on principle…because someone has to so that more innocent people and upstanding businesses are not harmed. Daugherty, now an author and spokesman on cybersecurity and government overreach, has been calling out the witch hunt on the federal agency level, while Thomason’s open records requests were made on a hyper-local level (Blue Ridge, Georgia, in the Appalachian Judicial Circuit) but leading to national recognition and support from news media.

Fact Check Time with Mike Daugherty

Watching the events unfold in their respective fights is somewhat like looking in a mirror, and when you learn more about what sparked their fights, you may be able to relate on some level. If that’s the case, I hope that you are inspired and find something to draw strength from as I have. When someone does harm to you or to a person or place you care about, and you feel called to do something about it, prepare for and expect the blowback!

I believe both Michael and Mark will affirm that it will worsen before it gets better and relief arrives, but there is no greater satisfaction (outside of parenting, personally) than showing you have what it takes, including a network of support, to prevail in the end.

Please check out their stories – Mike Daugherty and Mark Thomason – and follow the updates on these cases. The retaliation against these good men is alarming, blatant and clearly meant to destroy, but I expect both will prevail and that our society will be better off for the stands they are taking.

Mark’s updates can be seen on the Fannin Focus Facebook page when other news media report on the situation, so this is the easiest way to keep up with Mark.

Twitter is my favorite way to keep up with Mike and the banter about data security, privacy, and the hacking done by Tiversa to create profits from false allegations against his business. Unreal! [This reminds of a couple other Georgia cases involving computer security experts being used to create false criminal claims, which were turned into profits for a few attorneys and their experts; one of these cases involves a story of national interest, so you’ll see more coming out on this one].

Your story, I am guessing, is also worth telling and I’m glad to read or listen, and to invite you to talk about it when Pro Advocate Radio returns for its next season!

Watch this WSB-TV report to go deeper into the saga exposing judicial impropriety, retaliation against reporters who ask too many questions and to see how our news media are responding.

Thinning the Thin Blue Line for Political Gain

A candidate spoke of the positives coming out of the violence at his political rally. Yes, he did.

No mention of the injured officer or of the waste of our tax dollars caused by his inciting of violence and intentionally divisive, inflammatory words and conduct. But he did speculate it could be good for his vote count while talking to media and even went on to talk about himself and his supporters as being the victims for having their first amendment rights denied.

This could be the thinning of what is already a thin blue line.

What does #ThinBlueLine mean?

The Thin Blue Line is a symbol used by law enforcement, originating in the United Kingdom but now prevalent in the United States and Canada to commemorate fallen officers and to symbolize the relationship of the police in the community as the protectors of the citizenry from the criminal element. In my opinion this line gets thinner when people treat law enforcement with disrespect and make their jobs harder, and integrity – or the lack of it – has everything to do with this problem.

Think. When we unnecessarily make police work harder by inciting violence we – candidates who activate hate, racism, fear, anti-semitism, and more – undermine our officers’ ability to protect and to serve as they are trying to do.

Poor judgment by candidates increases the risk to our officers, to families and children, to businesses, and, yes, to reporters as well. When you put down women, minorities and lie about what you’re doing, you’re inviting in abuse…but this candidate then rewards it with more fanfare.

When we create situations that cause law enforcement to have to react – and these are avoidable situations – we are wasting our resources, taking officers away from areas where others are truly in need of protection.

This candidate said about a protestor, “I was ready for him,” Trump said. “But it’s much easier if the cops do it.” This says he knows what he’s doing, escalating fear and hate, but that it’s not his problem, it’s law enforcement’s problem. And…it’s OUR problem as taxpayers, as parents, as business owners, etc. This doesn’t help us – – it hurts us.

Consider these statements in this CNN report:

Trump campaign manager Corey Lewandowski added, “We don’t make decisions in a vacuum. We coordinate with all the appropriate law enforcement.”

But Anthony Guglielmi, a Chicago police spokesman, told CNN that Trump’s claim that he informed a police commander before making the decision to cancel the rally was “absolutely untrue.”

“No one from the campaign contacted the Chicago Police Department and we were not involved at all in canceling the event,” Guglielmi told CNN. [So this candidate’s going to subject our officers to greater risk, and our citizens, and then lie about his campaign’s conduct while blaming police.]

“I was literally standing next to the superintendent when we were notified by the university that the event had been canceled. I think a lot of people were surprised, including the Secret Service officer standing next to us who was notified at the same time.”

Guglielmi added that police then dispatched an additional 100 police officers to the University of Illinois arena, where the event was being held, to assist with crowd control.

What if, Mr. Presidential Candidate, instead of stirring up violent protests for the sake of attention, media ratings and to distract from your own misconduct, you managed in a way that encourages law enforcement to use their time and energy to rescue victims of child trafficking and to pursue the predators in each area you visit?

That is what honoring law enforcement and protecting our vulnerable citizens looks like, when you choose what is right for them over what your ego demands.

If enough people say the truth over and over again maybe it will start to resonate with voters who still have integrity and empathy for people.

To the millions who are struggling, losing children, homes, health and jobs, I hope you’ll consider the attitude and example of candidates and watch how they treat others. If someone is cavalier about risking the lives of our officers, retaliates against a victim of violence for speaking out, threatens anyone who speaks out against him and rewards those who put profits over facts, what chance do you think we’ll have of getting him to care about the plight of families and children? Where on his list of priorities do you think your family will fall?

Respond to me on Twitter @DebBeachamATL or @MyAdvocateCentr, or via MyAdvocateCenter.com.

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center
Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center

 

Keeping Your Sense of Humor

Each day this call to action becomes more important as we are inundated with negativity messages and personal attacks, because we dared to speak our mind and take a stand about something important.

As you filter out the negative political attacks and the biased news media reports, preserve your health and sanity by either not responding, or responding with a sense of humor. What is most effective is the short and sweet, positive / above the fray type of message.

One of my favorite recently heart remarks is from Governor Nikki Halley when she came back at Donald with, “Bless your heart,” to one of his blustering and bullying put-downs.

Don’t just smile, create some of your own and save them up since you don’t know when you might need to have one or two handy to deal with people who want to slow your work down (because it makes them look bad or feel inferior), or people who say untrue or cruel things about you because they want to escape consequences for their own actions. Don’t worry about what is wrong with them, just focus on lifting yourself, or someone you support, up and over the scoundrels who want you to go off the cliff with them.

Charm school or the funny papers you read with grandpa may just pay off!

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham Driving Change

 

Child Advocacy and Presidential Elections

When many speak of child advocacy it seems they are counting on only one political party to care or take action. When I’ve spoken about the work I do at My Advocate Center some will even ask, “Why aren’t you a Democrat then?” They seem surprised that I am conservative and that I look toward Republican leadership to make improvements in child and family protections.  Over the last few years I’ve explored this question for myself and have found that political views or party affiliation have no place in the minds of the true advocates pushing to rescue children, to intervene in society’s pitfalls and to change policy.

DaveMcCleary_Advocate_Rotarian A Georgia businessman I’ve been getting to know when visiting the Capitol and events related to stopping child trafficking has raised the bar in showing how you can make a positive impact while collaborating with people from across every sector and with others who have different perspectives in areas such as faith and politics. For Dave McCleary it’s a simple matter of showing up and using the resources you have available to drive change.

When I saw Dave at a campaign event for Marco Rubio for President, I of course wanted to know what it is about Senator Rubio that has earned Dave’s support for this presidential candidate. As I’m sure you will be, I’m grateful to learn that Rubio has the same fire in his gut for helping our vulnerable citizens, especially exploited children and battered women. Please listen to what Dave has to say about the man, the father and leader Marco Rubio.

Family Stability

Is it good for you to know what’s coming?  What you can expect, or better yet, what you can or cannot control? I believe so, and I believe informing families improves stability.

Of course.  So that means it is true for your children as well.   Most of the concepts I’m exploring here have to do with helping us do better for ourselves but especially for our children.  If you are not a parent, but support children or parents in your community, you may learn about concepts or resources that you’ll want to share.

In my own journey I realized there was a lot of information and guidance missing that I needed at a critical time, so I set out to have questions answered and to identify the best resources that others might need as well.

If you would like to contribute to the public education now available through My Advocate Center to help more families avoid the pitfalls seen in our court system, please consider donating here. This method is not yet tax-deductible, so let me know if you prefer to use a method that will allow you to receive the deduction through one of our partner organizations.


What I learned is worth sharing.  The issues I address are meant to invite debate about more positive ways to resolve conflict and overcome challenges – or challenging people – with a central focus on the needs of children.

Just knowing the right questions to ask, knowing that accountability is possible, finding honest and trustworthy support…can make all the difference in how we function in life, how we protect our health and finances, and especially around how we care for and nurture our children.

When we are informed and well supported, we can properly set and follow through on expectations.  That benefits our children because we all have greater peace of mind.  With the right expectations, support, know-how, peace of mind…we can perform better, make better decisions, and ideally deliver what is needed.

So the conversation here is about empowering, creating new solutions and building toward better peace of mind, better health, greater productivity…and, yes, more laughter and joy.

Keeping it simple:  when we are at our best, we can serve God, each other and our children better.

Many of my topics come from daily life, as well as from being provoked in social media by friends I agree with and others I don’t.   My posts have less to do with what is reported in the news, and more to do with how I see us treating each other – and how that affects our children.

Many of the questions I raise also grow out of my observations of my own children and of other children & families:

When you learn to read the faces of children, you’ll see that they are telling you a lot about yourself.

Just know that if I call you out, I’m calling myself out as well.  Being transparent seems to work for me so I’m going with it.  None of us are perfect, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t keep learning and striving to do more with what we have, and to help our kids do better than we’ve done in the past.

What you can expect from me is candor, challenge, spirit (sometimes becoming “fight” when called for) and a genuine desire to both learn from my own mistakes and to help others do the same.

This desire gave birth to Connect | Inform | Empower and the warehouse of solutions and resources now called My Advocate Center.

On this blog and on My Advocate Center’s blog you’ll see a broad range of discussions, from children’s interests and parenting issues, including legal advocacy for parents and children, to issues that go to the heart of both social and business relationships.  I’ll probably get Global and Political and Spiritual at times – but always practical, always balanced and quick to consider perspectives other than my own.

What I ask of you as a reader is to please consider different sides of issues, and to help me Stand in the Gap that exists around many of the problems we face in this Community of ours.  Let’s set a better example: one we want our children to model after and carry forward with our help.

Your constructive feedback is always welcome here, and positive contributions are a great thing!

Thank you,

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center
Deb Beacham, My Advocate Center

 

The Search for Great Leaders

I can’t think of a better way to prepare for a new radio show segment on faith and politics than to read God and Churchill by Jonathan Sandys and Wallace Henley. We kicked off 2016 with a compelling conversation with these authors and their timing couldn’t be any better, especially as we are being challenged fiercely around our freedoms, including our freedom to speak our truth and to show our faith publicly.

God and Churchill on Pro Advocate Radio

This is a great read so I urge you to start now and to send your comments and questions to us for this show by using this form on ProAdvocateRadio.com.

You can also connect with me on Twitter: @DebBeachamATL and @Pro_A_Radio.

Thank you for your support and for tuning in to Pro Advocate Radio!

State and local leaders, please email me here for upcoming event information.

News Media and Social Media Make All the Difference

The importance of transparency and the role of news media and social media can not be overstated.

This is even more critical today and adults and children are asking for help from professionals to address bad practices being used to undermine and destabilize parents, especially parents fighting to protect and provide for their children.

Interested in learning more or seeing how you can help?

Please get in touch using this form.

Thank you!

Deb Beacham

Founder of My Advocate Center and Sponsor of Pro Advocate Radio, Atlanta

Civil Litigation as a Solution

A Better Life without the sex trade…is possible.  So is recovery with the help of the right legal team.A better life awaits

Welcome to US CLAWS, an Atlanta Non-Profit fired up about putting out the raging fire of child abuse, sex trafficking and child trafficking that is so prevalent in our society.

We can’t ignore any longer such an unhealthy trend and such easy access as predators have, and with close to zero accountability and virtually no chance of recovery for victims of the sex trade.

Now is your chance to make a difference:

Please visit the website for US CLAWS and join us at the GALA this September.

Tune in to ProAdvocateRadio.com on August 31st at 10am to learn more!

Thanks for your support of CLAWS and Pro Advocate Radio,

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham_Advocate for Parents & Children

 

 

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