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Sexual Assault Awareness

April is sexual assault awareness month, but this is something we need to focus on every month, every day. There are more children and adult victims around us than you could imagine. So please learn to recognize the signs and know what the resources are to guide to for help.

Please take this seriously and shine a light into dark corners where predators hide, and where certain professionals profit by helping to block evidence and testimony to help these children. Child abuse is a crime, and so is covering up child abuse. #ProfitOverProtection

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Launching Big Ideas: Happy New Year!

If you’re going to go…go BIG!

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Here’s to hoping that whatever big ideas and plans you have for this year, that you are confident, supported, excited, and ready to launch in this New Year of 2015.

Looking forward to learning what you’re up to and hearing about what inspires you; so let’s get together soon!

Stay safe and peaceful, my friends and family,

Deb Beacham

Deb Beacham

16 Rules – Taking One Per Week

Which one is your favorite?

Don’t just read these or smile over a few; take one with you each week or month, and let me know how you apply it?

  1. Get and stay out of your comfort zone.  (WHAT comfort zone??  Nov 2013 is when I realized there is no such thing for me as a comfort zone. I’ve learned to be comfortable with uncertainty, with not knowing what is behind doors number 1, 2 OR 3!)
  2. Never give up
  3. When you’re ready to quit, you’re closer than you think
  4. With regard to whatever worries you, not only accept the worst thing that could happen, but make it a point to quantify what the worst thing could be
  5. Focus on what you want to have happen
  6. Take things a day at a time
  7. Always be moving forward
  8. Be quick to decide
  9. Measure everything of significance
  10. Anything that is not managed will deteriorate
  11. Pay attention to your competitors, but pay more attention to what you’re doing
  12. Never let anybody push you around
  13. Never expect life to be fair
  14. Solve your own problems
  15. Don’t take yourself too seriously
  16. There’s always a reason to smile.

Forget “One-a-Day” — best policy is to live with each concept thoroughly and get it right before focusing on the next.  I’ll add my own comments in parentheses after each rule, so please share and add your own as well.  What do these rules mean to you, and how will you apply them?

Thanks to my dear friend who knows my fondness for digital marketing leaders like Bob Parsons, and shared this with me recently.

 

Bob Parsons® 16 Rules for Success in Business and Life in General

Please read the entire text and share: Copyright © 2004 Bob Parsons http://www.bobparsons.me. All rights reserved. Reproduced with permission.

Coaching Kids who Need Support

Deb Beacham advocates for children having the best that both parents have to offer.

Have you heard the saying, “It takes a Village to raise a child?”

If you’re a kid then maybe you have not heard this – but I’d like for you to think about it for a minute:

This is an idea that many people believe to be true.  This is because we all believe that you – our children – are our most important purpose in life.

NOTHING is more important than your well-being.  You matter, and you matter BIG time!

Kids: let us know if you don't have what you need, or if you are trying to reconnect with a parent you lost during a divorce.
Kids: let us know if you don’t have what you need, or if you are trying to reconnect with a parent you lost during a divorce.

 

We adults have to work together to help you grow up strong, healthy and able to enjoy life and all that is wonderful about you, and about our world.  You deserve to feel safe and secure, and to be peaceful in your surroundings, and you deserve the best that your parents and family can give you.

I really believe this is true, and this is my commitment to YOU.  I say this for my children, for their friends and for all of you who are reading this on my website and blog.

If you are reading this, chances are that you are struggling with some challenge in your life that is really hard for you to overcome by yourself.   And you shouldn’t feel like you have to do this on your own…we adults have responsibility for helping you through these things.

You need people to believe you, believe in your right to be free and healthy, and you need people who will speak up on your behalf.  So here goes:

If someone is getting in the way of your rights, we adults and advocates and especially parents need to know about it.  If someone is hurting you in ANY way, we need you to be strong and tell us.  It’s the only way we can handle the people who are hurting you – and it is the only way we can help you.

You are very brave.  So know that I and our “village” recognize that, and are here to support you.  You are NOT alone.

And even if someone has disappointed you in the past when you’ve asked for help, please know that it is ok to feel disappointed and to even be angry at someone who didn’t follow through and help you.  Even though that felt bad, and you may be worried that someone else will disappoint you, I want you to try this again.

I do know that this is hard, and that when you’ve been hurt it is easier to stay quiet and to give in to shame and fear than it is to speak up and ask for help.  Just know that we can work through that, ok?

It is your right to be supported and helped through this.  So please ask your parent or another adult you trust to let me know how I can help you and them.

Who am I?

I am a Mother – one who has worked hard to help my own children overcome fear, worry and sadness.  There were people who got in my way and caused my children to hurt a lot.  So we know how you feel, and how your parents feel. My children are healthy and happy now, so if I can help them…then I can help YOU.  (No, I don’t do this alone; there are lots of great people here who want to help you!   It’s important to know I do this because I’m a good PARENT.  I work with both mothers and fathers to help kids get what they need.  Sometimes parents need help…so let’s see what we can do for them, too, ok?)

I am an Advocate – this means I work in our community to help others see what they need to do, helping them to do it BETTER, so that you can get what you need.  Does that make sense?

I am a COACH!  This is my JOB.  I lift other people up and make them stronger, so that we can all make things better for you – our kids.   If you have P.E. at school, or know about sports, you know about coaches, right?  I love coaching kids!  It’s my favorite thing to do…so think of me as someone who can help you do better in this challenging “game” that you want to win.

Our Community:

Did you know … there are many people here who want to help you?  Leaders in our business community, in our schools, at our hospitals and in our neighborhoods…all who want to work to see you get what you need!

So if this feels right to you – and you can help me help YOU – ask an adult to help you get in touch with me.

How do we get in touch with each other?  Easy… Use this page – click HERE – to send me your email and/or phone number. 

 ~ Keep being Yourself ~ Believe ~ Play ~ Dream ~ Be a Kid! ~

Kids and Improving Health

Why do I do much of what I do as an advocate and mother?

Because decisions and actions in our community are having a negative impact on the health of children.

How do I know?  Because I lived through watching my own children suffer unnecessarily while having the right help withheld from them – intentionally and with dishonesty – by certain members of our family court system.

The best gift we can give children this holiday season would be to step up and help resolve the confusion and uncertainty for them as their parents transition through conflict. There are several reasonable ways to do this, which we’ll be addressing in the coming months on our radio show.

As a parent can you imagine much worse than seeing that your children need help, and not being able to give it to them?  

Having your hands tied…while being lied to and made to believe that you have no choice but to let your own child suffer…when you could be providing needed care, nurturing, and psychological or medical treatment — things are ARE within your reach.  You don’t have to be a parent to imagine how terrifying or traumatic this might be… You just have to be human and breathing… And, YES, this is happening a lot, right in your own backyard.

Please ask WHY anyone would intentionally prevent a loving parent from protecting or providing treatment for their child.  Does this make any sense?

Since resolving my own conflict and gaining perspective on the family court arena, I’ve seen countless numbers of children having their health needs – including physical and emotional health – ignored and have even seen treatment withheld and denied when the diagnosis and financial resources were available.

This is child abuse and neglect, goes against the law, and in too many cases it is happening simply because of greed… and to reward foul play in a legal setting.   I’m asking you to look at this and decide where and when you can help.  It’s time.

This issue is like a cancer in our society, only we don’t know until it happens to us, and usually by the time we realize what has happened and what or why it is being done, it is too late to stop it from happening.

If you are offended by this notion, that this is going on, then I’ve done my job with this post.  But the bigger need is for you not to turn away from it but rather decide where you can lend your voice or resources or connections to help #MakeaDifference.

I’d appreciate your support – and these kids really need you.  Let’s see what we can do to ensure that your kids, your grandchildren, or your friends’ and neighbors’ kids don’t feel the impact of this problem. It “takes a village,” remember?  

There is more to what I do than challenging certain professionals around their poor judgment and lack of loyalty and honesty; this is about challenging more parents to recover faster from conflict, to take a look around and to really see how you can use what you’ve learned – and what you’ve earned.  Get out of your own situation, and find someone else to help.

If you’ve followed me in social media you know that I sometimes serve as a voice for families dealing with pediatric cancer.  My own children are involved because we are all so thankful that we are healthy and have the lives and privileges that we do, so we give back by uplifting other families and raising awareness for this issue.  We need greater funding for #PediatricCancer.  We need more heroes!  #YoungHeroes4KidsCancer (Stay tuned as we head toward March 2015 and the next St. Baldrick’s event in Atlanta/SandySprings.)

More success stories are needed to show what happens when we rally behind kids and give them what they need to overcome challenges. Check out Briana Hudson on Facebook to see what I mean!  #YoungHeroesLeague This girl and her family are making big things happen. She is one of my heroes!

Follow My Advocate Center to support us as we work to help families transition through and out of conflict, and as we advocate for policy changes that will make the legal process safer for families.  If we can #ImproveFamilyLaw then we have a better chance of letting kids receive the best that BOTH parents have to offer.  There is just no valid reason to do anything different and our laws support this mission.

Follow People Against Childhood Cancer if you want to learn more about how to help children that way.  Cancer in every form is AWFUL and deserves your attention, commitment, resources and your voice.  Please do what you can while praying this doesn’t touch your own family, neighborhood, church, business or school.

Above all, be grateful and be inspired to do more with what you have.

 

Your Take-Aways

What am I about?

We may have met through friends, at the radio studio, by introduction on LinkedIn, or you may have found my name in a search about resolving conflict or addressing ethics issues that are causing harm to children and families.

What I do is not just for the sake of building a blog or about making noise; what I write and say on Pro Advocate Radio is meant to encourage transparency, debate, and the development and funding of SOLUTIONS. Ethical solutions that leave our families, children, businesses, schools and our state in a better place than where we found them.

Moral principles highlighted in green under the heading Ethics.
I’m a Peace-Keeper and Problem-Solver.  Marketing and promoting are secondary, a means to an end.  I’m after quality of life, solid mental and physical health, productivity and enjoyment. For all of us and especially for our children.

Children and our Community. If it is good for kids, then it is good for me and for you as parents, as educators and coaches, as financial, legal, healthcare professionals…and as leaders.

Here is where we may differ: I chose to take some risk by challenging bad practices and explaining how damages are being caused – avoidable damages – and daring good people to do something about it. Sometimes that means I’m not popular or politically correct in certain circles, and I take that as a compliment.

Also, there is a notion in some areas of “leadership” and governance, including governing boards of companies and agencies, that “Doing the Right Thing” by children, families and the public has to be difficult and expensive. Some have said, that’s just too big of a problem, that’s just how it is and has been for decades…so there’s nothing we can DO about it; but others are asking, how can WE make a difference?

I’m asking you to help create more voices who will ask that last question, to see how it is possible – not just IDEAL – to do the right thing as you pursue a career, a better quality of life, more influence and opportunity for yourself.

Many seem to think those don’t go together, that they are mutually exclusive. They are not.

Would you like to see the How and Why?  Yes…I can show you.

I am so grateful to be in a position to build profit and show returns on investments, while lifting others up. We can and should do more to protect and uplift people who need it, and we can be profitable and efficient while being effective. We can enjoy this work and even have fun doing it. I hope you agree!

Profit is not a bad word, so I would peacefully challenge anyone who speaks as if being an entrepreneur, investing for a return, or working like a capitalist is a negative thing, and ask them to look at our work, to look at the results and to see what scaling this work can mean for many more. This is why I use the #IDareYou hashtag on some of my posts. Why not take a hard look at how we can do better?

To those who are uncertain about supporting Social Enterprise, is there a way to meet in the middle? I believe so and also ask that you not label me or ask me to color inside the lines. It’s time for new attitudes and something different…both are needed to disrupt the status quo.

If you can relate to terms such Social Enterprise, Civic Venture, and can relate to being conservatively compassionate or a compassionate conservative, then you might already understand why I work and write the way I do.  If you saw the news coverage that included my work with My Advocate Center, then even better!  You are one step ahead in understanding the urgency of this work, and in knowing why I and others on our team ask for support.

The bottom line I ask everyone to focus on:

Where and how are you making a difference, and for whom? What does your power and influence or status do for others?  Specifically how are you using what you have and can do for children and families fighting for stability, health and to protect their relationships?

If you talk about the healthcare industry, the burden on our healthcare system, or on schools, law enforcement, the housing industry, etc., but you are only looking at it from the perspective of your insurance costs or shareholder value, then I’ll challenge you to rethink this a bit.

…Because the Damages to Children are having an impact on your bottom line. This has a lot to do with trauma, and addressing how we can prevent more injury and help victims recover faster. We have been covering this on Pro Advocate Radio, and I will address this topic in more detail in the white paper being produced for My Advocate Center and community leaders.

When you’re ready, let’s open up this conversation and see if I can help you learn what you need to know to make a difference in your own way!

What else should you know about me?
Well…I’m certain and confident in this work, in the advocate I’ve become and in the team we’ve built.  I am patient but impatient at the same time because of what I see daily. When blazing trails and taking on tough subjects, you also have to be bold, creative, persistent. Being inclusive is the only way we can really drive lasting change, so please join us!

Thank you for reading, for listening to Pro Advocate Radio and, as always, I’d love to have your feedback and your support in this mission,

Deb Beacham

Are All Judges, or Relationships with Judges created Equal?

Let’s put all our cards on the table:

Have you seen or experienced something “off” in a court room?  Or heard a story of someone getting a “raw deal” that just didn’t make any sense?

Well, here is just a part of the explanation, but be forewarned, that this is just one sliver of the answer…or the tip of that mysterious iceberg.

The result of some intelligent persistence by a reporter and parents and some others who believe that we, as citizens of the United States which provides for Equal Access and Due Process, deserve something better:

CBS Atlanta and Jeff Chirico follow parents through stories revealing that Court outcomes sometimes have more behind the curtain than you think.

Just imagine if you had no way of learning that something like this was influencing the outcome of a case where your life and your children depended on the truth counting?

Simple question:  should you be in the know about things like this that are in play in your case before the Court?

Email answers, more questions or news about your case to My Advocate Center, or just follow @MyAdvocateCentr on Twitter to learn more as we peel back the layers hiding the facts and figures driving these stories.

Marching Orders from a Media Guru

There is no better way to launch a new venture than to hear your marching orders from some true world leaders in the women’s empowerment movement.  So attending the Global Women’s Initiative event hosted by Womenetics  this month was perfect timing for laying the groundwork for My Advocate Center.

“Better solutions have to come from us,” was one of my favorite validating statements from Pat Mitchell, the President and CEO of the Paley Center for Media.

Another strong theme of hers that excites me is “transforming…with transparency and accountability.”  Being able to relate to a speaker named by the Huffington Post as one of the Powerful Women Over 50 left me feeling I was in good company with the objectives we have outlined for M-A-C.  Okay, I thought, we are on the right track…

If women can take charge and make momentous changes for the citizens of the Congo and for Kenya, using new technology, including mobile technology, then what should we be able to do with it here in the U.S.?  What should I be able to do with the privileges and comforts and connections that I have?  (I’m not daring you here; I’m daring myself.)

“When in the hands of women, we do so much with it.”  I hear you, Pat.

“Create change we want to see, but not for ourselves alone.”  For me in founding M-A-C, that would mean other parents, both mothers and fathers, and for our children.  It IS possible to interrupt harmful cycles, for example as in family violence, if we know where to look and what to do with what we’ve learned.

Carrying her message out the door, we remember these principles:

1. Find a mentor, and be a mentor
2. Take risk.  Worth repeating: Pat’s Native American grandmother said, “Falling on your face is at least a move forward.”
3. Be fearless
4. Be impatient

     I think I started with number 4 and am working my way up the list!  Actually I have found a couple pretty amazing mentors – so thank you if you are reading this.  Nothing is lost here.
     We appreciate Womenetics for lighting up Atlanta, Georgia with the minds of women like Pat.  And, for the great door prizes such as the one I happened to win – tickets to another thought-provoking event which I can’t wait to attend.  So look for another post like this one following the Chic-Fil-A LeaderCast in May, 2013!